Dream Qualities…!!
When we talk about love & life I think it leads to an endless discussion. When I say love, I mean the bonding shared between two mature people, not between two school kids who have no direction sense about their life.
Few weeks back I happened to watch “Coffee with Karan” on Star World & the guests on the show were Malaika Arora & Amrita Arora. I know it was a bad choice but sometimes we can’t help it when all roomies want to watch the same show. So, it was me struggling to make sense out of those senseless talks. It was first time I got to know that those two young ladies are sisters. What was disastrous in the whole show was Karan asking Amrita about three qualities in her dream lover. The three which she mentioned with utmost pride were something like this,
“My dream man should
1) Wear good footwear
2) Have nice hands
3) Should smell good”
I almost outburst, but somehow controlled my emotions keeping in view the lovers of the show. In my opinion this kind of answer can be least expected from any sensible girl. But who will question the sensibility of film stars. ;-)
I don’t say that any girl will like a shabby guy, but then if she really loves you she doesn’t care for all this. She may give you frank opinions (unlike your other friends) about your personality like “Moustache or beard doesn’t suit you, so don’t keep it” or “You are putting on lots of weight, better start exercising.” But only for things like nice hands, good footwear a girl, I mean a sensible girl will rarely fall for.
As always love knows no reasons. As Pascal has very rightly said:
“Love has its own reasons, about which reason knows nothing”
He may have liked your innocence, your practicality or your juvenile spirit from far.
She may not be your friend, can be just a stranger, but she may adore you for your silent nature, your lone life, or your presence of mind which she would have admired from a safe distance.
I feel it is not necessary to be close to a person to fall in love, a person may get infatuated by some of our quality which many don’t like, something like our solitude or privacy or on the contrary our jovial nature. Then that infatuation may take the shape of love, longing, faith & commitment.
They have or develop slowly all of the above. Faith that we will understand their views; commitment for us over months & years; longing for that one sweet smile, one email or one phone call of ours; and love that’s as pious as the innocence of a child.
The only thing they lack is in reasoning. If we go & ask someone who loves us deeply, not only our lover, say our parents or siblings that “Why do you love me?” I am very sure they can’t give us a categorical answer. It is because like our lovers they simply love us just because they feel so, and not for some special reasons. They don’t expect anything from us and therefore in the same way don’t have any answer for, “What do you expect from me?”
One & only thing they want is to shower their love upon us & to show that they care. They understand the lonesome person inside you & want to fill your life with happiness.
How our relation becomes romantic and intimate; it all depends on how we handle our lover ;-) We hurt or we love them, it all depends on us.
Some people realize the worth of someone’s emotions, accept it in their life & their life is full of love all around. Some people continue searching for happiness in other materialistic things of the world and there life remains nothing more than a quest because the one who loves them is left somewhere in the way.
Do we also have some insane list of dream qualities like Miss Amrita which we keep searching in our dream lover?? ;-)
We are on which path??
We have to decide are we going to accept someone’s love or continue with our conservative endless search based on our so called reasoning.
(A lot more to write…let me take it another post…)
Few weeks back I happened to watch “Coffee with Karan” on Star World & the guests on the show were Malaika Arora & Amrita Arora. I know it was a bad choice but sometimes we can’t help it when all roomies want to watch the same show. So, it was me struggling to make sense out of those senseless talks. It was first time I got to know that those two young ladies are sisters. What was disastrous in the whole show was Karan asking Amrita about three qualities in her dream lover. The three which she mentioned with utmost pride were something like this,
“My dream man should
1) Wear good footwear
2) Have nice hands
3) Should smell good”
I almost outburst, but somehow controlled my emotions keeping in view the lovers of the show. In my opinion this kind of answer can be least expected from any sensible girl. But who will question the sensibility of film stars. ;-)
I don’t say that any girl will like a shabby guy, but then if she really loves you she doesn’t care for all this. She may give you frank opinions (unlike your other friends) about your personality like “Moustache or beard doesn’t suit you, so don’t keep it” or “You are putting on lots of weight, better start exercising.” But only for things like nice hands, good footwear a girl, I mean a sensible girl will rarely fall for.
As always love knows no reasons. As Pascal has very rightly said:
“Love has its own reasons, about which reason knows nothing”
He may have liked your innocence, your practicality or your juvenile spirit from far.
She may not be your friend, can be just a stranger, but she may adore you for your silent nature, your lone life, or your presence of mind which she would have admired from a safe distance.
I feel it is not necessary to be close to a person to fall in love, a person may get infatuated by some of our quality which many don’t like, something like our solitude or privacy or on the contrary our jovial nature. Then that infatuation may take the shape of love, longing, faith & commitment.
They have or develop slowly all of the above. Faith that we will understand their views; commitment for us over months & years; longing for that one sweet smile, one email or one phone call of ours; and love that’s as pious as the innocence of a child.
The only thing they lack is in reasoning. If we go & ask someone who loves us deeply, not only our lover, say our parents or siblings that “Why do you love me?” I am very sure they can’t give us a categorical answer. It is because like our lovers they simply love us just because they feel so, and not for some special reasons. They don’t expect anything from us and therefore in the same way don’t have any answer for, “What do you expect from me?”
One & only thing they want is to shower their love upon us & to show that they care. They understand the lonesome person inside you & want to fill your life with happiness.
How our relation becomes romantic and intimate; it all depends on how we handle our lover ;-) We hurt or we love them, it all depends on us.
Some people realize the worth of someone’s emotions, accept it in their life & their life is full of love all around. Some people continue searching for happiness in other materialistic things of the world and there life remains nothing more than a quest because the one who loves them is left somewhere in the way.
Do we also have some insane list of dream qualities like Miss Amrita which we keep searching in our dream lover?? ;-)
We are on which path??
We have to decide are we going to accept someone’s love or continue with our conservative endless search based on our so called reasoning.
(A lot more to write…let me take it another post…)
Excogitated by a_beautifulmind @ 9:18 AM
16 Voiced their opinions :
As of me i think communication is quite important in love..
I agree nobody should just fall for looks( doesnt make much sense)
but dont u think..that requires knowing the person well..that's where communication and search is quite important.Not everybody is lucky to have a person who understands them around them..
@ Anubhav,
Point taken anubhav, communication is really imp. else both will keep thinking if he/she would have told ;-)
As far as falling in love is concerned, some fall for looks others for personality. Now looks & personality are two very different things.
Acc. to literal meaning:
Looks stand for: Physical appearance
Personality is: The complex of all the attributes--behavioral, temperamental, emotional and mental--that characterize a unique individual.
People are bothered about looks when they only use their eyes & by personality when they also use their heart & mind.
Knowing the person well is more dependent on someone's will and not on distance.
One doesn't need to be a close friend to admire someone. If we think only our close friend can love us, its not correct acc. to me.
We can admire & love someone & become close friends later also.
Okie...a posting series has started i believe..:-)
Smart personality for me...:p
1) beauty without brains - not applicable
2) brains without 70% beauty - chalega (30 - 40% beauty is needed..:p)
3) beauty with brains - daudega...;)
Very well said da!! :-)
as goes the famous saying:
... What good is beauty without brains,
looks without charm,
money without happiness,
a smile without feelings,
a life without someone's love? ... ;-)
well said both of u...
I think I miss "Crappy Shit" here.
Crappy Shit will be happy to know that somebody misses shit also in this world(That too a crappy one ;-))
Specially, when there are so many nice people in the world who love you and whom you miss.
Don't you have anyone who loves you so much that you can miss after reading the post??
I must say you have a unique choice Praveer ;-)
You & Crappy Shit!! WOW...ROTFL
now will u blog...people like me who are jobless 24x7 during vacations need posts to blabber on...
Why don't you write a new post in the meantime anubhav? :-)
I think I am on a break ;-)
“You are putting on lots of weight, better start exercising.” Have u been spying on me???
:-)
D4u- beauty with brains - daudega...;) i dont think u can find anyone like that.. settle for option 2..
But personally i dont think looks matter so much, i mean fine if u are in a singles bar and look at this hot babe sitting, u would much rather go to her, than the not-so-good looking girl with thick glasses.. but after the first 45 seconds u would realise that the not-so-good looking girl would have been a better bet :-)... thats my opinion..but as they say it really doesnt matter..!! Its what you believe, what your priciples are..
Ok sorry to fill your blog space, :) my humble appologies ..
>>>"but after the first 45 seconds u would realise that the not-so-good looking girl would have been a better bet :-)"
Very well said Golden Words. :-)
Although very few realise it in time, most of them get to know after they have lost the bet & that not-so-good looking girl has left. ;-)
Its ok to see a good lookin girl and then after 45 secs feel that the other option was better..but its a matter of how many people learn from that and follow the other option next time around..:-)
And on the other hand, the girl with gud looks cud actually have brains too...i mean why not....the 'daudega' category...:p
At the end of the day, its just a matter of one's perceptions!!
as of going to a good looking girl first...i think its so much fun to repeat the mistake again..:D
"To err is human, and to repeat again is man"
and the daudega category..runs so fast from my life not been able to catch a single one..
wish granted beautiful mind..
ok u have been tagged ....see my blog for details..//
Ah....stupidity has struck here too...kool..:D!!!
Thanks for the tag anubhav ;-)
I am enjoying my break with comments from you all :-)
@deeps
stupidity is spreading quickly ;-)
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